Loving the Unlovely

A long time ago I saved this in my drafts- time to publish, albeit without comment from me.

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So what do I communicate to the people in the church I serve?

* You really don’t measure up. (“A real Christian would be doing_________”)
* I really don’t value you as much anymore because of what you said or did.
* Your relationship with me is dependent upon your performance.

Could it be the Lord would like to use you in your church and community to communicate his love?

Perhaps you need to reflect upon one of the following questions:

* How do people feel when you have been around them for a little while? Do they feel encouraged or de-valued?
* Could it be that some come away from a conversation with you feeling there is no way to ever measure up in your eyes?
* Do people see that you value their world? Or do they sense that you only value your world?
* Do people know and feel that even if you disapprove that you will love them anyway?
* Do you need to communicate to your husband/wife/children that you know them and that you love them anyway?

further on on penetrating questions :

So what do I communicate to the people in the church I serve?

* You really don’t measure up. (“A real Christian would be doing_________”)
* I really don’t value you as much anymore because of what you said or did.
* Your relationship with me is dependent upon your performance.

Could it be the Lord would like to use you in your church and community to communicate his love?

Perhaps you need to reflect upon one of the following questions:

* How do people feel when you have been around them for a little while? Do they feel encouraged or de-valued?
* Could it be that some come away from a conversation with you feeling there is no way to ever measure up in your eyes?
* Do people see that you value their world? Or do they sense that you only value your world?
* Do people know and feel that even if you disapprove that you will love them anyway?
* Do you need to communicate to your husband/wife/children that you know them and that you love them anyway?

via Hannah Im

2 thoughts on “Loving the Unlovely”

  1. Perhaps it was good I held it for so long..but in practical terms we find ourselves regularly in need of this type of checkpoint list. It seems impossible not to stray into a self invovled view and develop a sort of blindspot to the need of giving affirmation. I guess I wonder if we are really willing to extend this to one another. It doesn’t hurt to be reminded though:)

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