Lorna’s comment brought up the difficulty of talking about physically disciplining our children. There is so much muck to get through that it is one of those very, very hard topics to address with the fine tuning one needs.
Anyway, Amber Buriff’s posts are full of thoughts that I can really identify with, and judging from Lorna’s post, she feels the same way.
Some of the discussion on how to raise children is going to go cultural on us. I have a cousin whose Danish wife has an absolute horror of spanking children…yet, they raise beautiful children.
We have all seen irresponsible and spoiled children whose parents live in dread of them, from perfectly nice homes, as well.
No one believes abusing other people is good, but we all see the necessity of disciplines, that take different forms throughout life.
We are told that God disciplines us out of love. And some of those things seem quite harsh. I am in an in-between place on child discipline. The earlier children had more phsycial discipline than these younger ones… I can’t remember the last time I spanked anyone, but I have found times when that was the only good form of immediate restraint. A child who likes to run into the street? I ‘d talk to them, pull them back, yes. But I would also underline it with spanking. To make people really angry I guess… after losing more than one dog to country roads where the drivers drive too fast and don’t look …. I used a disciplinary procedure that included spraying them with cold water. Never did that with the children, but I thoroughly trained them to stay away from the road.
And I still had the occasional infraction or two. They were a stubborn lot ( where they got that?! ::rolling eyes:: )
I never see any reason or excuse for wife beating. Ever. That isn’t discipline, that is terrorizing. I think ability to understand the situation enters into the matter… although on the other side of the spectrum I do not believe it is ever right to punish a child below the age of 18 mos. with any sort of physical discipline.
So now that the can of worms has been opened…
I really meant just to turn your attention to some good blogs.